This post is for all the struggling mums out there – whether it be a long-term struggle or temporary; whether it is struggling to get your kids to bed, or getting them out of bed; whether it is getting them to feed at all, or to stop feeding (over feeding or weaning). If you’re a struggling mum, struggling with your worth as a mother and a woman, struggling through anxiety or depression, struggling with relationship breakdowns, struggling with some amount of mum guilt, struggling with managing your priorities and time, struggling with keeping a clean home, struggling with fear of judgement. For all you mummas, this is for you x
Dear Struggling Mum,
You are not alone.
When the pressure seems to too much, and the fragile edges of your patience and motivation start to fray, you are not alone.
When you are tested to every limit, by a baby who refuses to sleep, or a toddler who refuses to eat, or a child who refuses to listen, you are not alone.
When you feel your emotions are slipping, your anger starting to boil, or the tears beginning to flow, you are not alone.
When you watch your baby along with the others, and start to feel your baby isn’t matching up, you are not alone.
When you wonder why your baby isn’t doing certain things like crawling or walking, and wondering why they are doing other things, like waking up at night or eating the sand, you are not alone.
When you sit there wishing you had more time for yourself, like 5 minutes to drink a hot cup of tea or coffee, or go to the bathroom alone, or even sit and watch a tv show or read a book without little eyes watching, waiting, and crying; you are not alone.
When you feel you’re being judged for the choices you make as a mother – whether to breast or bottle feed, slep train or not, whether to co-sleep or put your baby in a bassinet. You are not alone.
When you wonder if your body will ever bounce back to what it once was, with no stretch marks, excess skin, scars, or extra weight, you are not alone.
When you are waiting, and hoping, and praying that your child will stop crying while you’re in the middle of the shopping centre, with no immediate exits close by, you are not alone.
When you feel guilty about back to work and being away from your baby all day, and then feel guilty about being at home with your baby and not giving them space to grow their independence. You are not alone.
When you feel like you’re a single parent because you haven’t seen or properly spoken to your spouse since before your child was born, you are not alone.
When you are a single parent and you are on call 24/7, 365 days a year (sometimes even 366!), and the weight of this feels never ending, you are not alone.
When you feel anxiety and depression creeping in because you feel like there is no one else in the world who will understand, you are not alone.
To the struggling Mum: No matter what your struggle is, whether it be body image, sleep deprivation, anxiety, depression, stress, cranky or overbearing children, relationship difficulties, or just the need for some TIME OUT – whatever your struggle is: you are not alone.
You are not alone.
There are mums all over the world experiencing the same struggles you are going through. There are other mums who are concerned about their weight, whether their baby is meeting milestones, or whether they will ever sleep again.
There are mums who are struggling to feed their babies, who are feeling anxious or depressed, and are single parents struggling to get through each day.
Whatever your worry, whatever your concern, whatever your struggle – please know you are not alone.
And above all else, please remember that it is ALL worth it.
For that little one who looks up to you. For that little one who is eager to see you. For that little one who needs you. For that little one who loves you.
You are their whole world, and they will make sure you are NEVER alone.