Dear Struggling Mum, You Are Not Alone

This post is for all the struggling mums out there – whether it be a long-term struggle or temporary; whether it is struggling to get your kids to bed, or getting them out of bed; whether it is getting them to feed at all, or to stop feeding (over feeding or weaning). If you’re a struggling mum, struggling with your worth as a mother and a woman, struggling through anxiety or depression, struggling with relationship breakdowns, struggling with some amount of mum guilt, struggling with managing your priorities and time, struggling with keeping a clean home, struggling with fear of judgement. For all you mummas, this is for you x

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Dear Struggling Mum,

You are not alone. 

When the pressure seems to too much, and the fragile edges of your patience and motivation start to fray, you are not alone.

When you are tested to every limit, by a baby who refuses to sleep, or a toddler who refuses to eat, or a child who refuses to listen, you are not alone.

When you feel your emotions are slipping, your anger starting to boil, or the tears beginning to flow, you are not alone.

When you watch your baby along with the others, and start to feel your baby isn’t matching up, you are not alone.

When you wonder why your baby isn’t doing certain things like crawling or walking, and wondering why they are doing other things, like waking up at night or eating the sand, you are not alone.

When you sit there wishing you had more time for yourself, like 5 minutes to drink a hot cup of tea or coffee, or go to the bathroom alone, or even sit and watch a tv show or read a book without little eyes watching, waiting, and crying; you are not alone.

When you feel you’re being judged for the choices you make as a mother – whether to breast or bottle feed, slep train or not, whether to co-sleep or put your baby in a bassinet. You are not alone.

When you wonder if your body will ever bounce back to what it once was, with no stretch marks, excess skin, scars, or extra weight, you are not alone.

When you are waiting, and hoping, and praying that your child will stop crying while you’re in the middle of the shopping centre, with no immediate exits close by, you are not alone.

When you feel guilty about back to work and being away from your baby all day, and then feel guilty about being at home with your baby and not giving them space to grow their independence. You are not alone.

When you feel like you’re a single parent because you haven’t seen or properly spoken to your spouse since before your child was born, you are not alone.

When you are a single parent and you are on call 24/7, 365 days a year (sometimes even 366!), and the weight of this feels never ending, you are not alone.

When you feel anxiety and depression creeping in because you feel like there is no one else in the world who will understand, you are not alone.

To the struggling Mum: No matter what your struggle is, whether it be body image, sleep deprivation, anxiety, depression, stress, cranky or overbearing children, relationship difficulties, or just the need for some TIME OUT – whatever your struggle is: you are not alone.

You are not alone.

There are mums all over the world experiencing the same struggles you are going through. There are other mums who are concerned about their weight, whether their baby is meeting milestones, or whether they will ever sleep again.

There are mums who are struggling to feed their babies, who are feeling anxious or depressed, and are single parents struggling to get through each day.

Whatever your worry, whatever your concern, whatever your struggle – please know you are not alone.

And above all else, please remember that it is ALL worth it.

For that little one who looks up to you. For that little one who is eager to see you. For that little one who needs you. For that little one who loves you.

You are their whole world, and they will make sure you are NEVER alone.

xx

 

 

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About Fi Morrison

Fi is a mum to her beautiful, 1-year-old baby boy who she affectionately calls Starfish. She started Mumma Morrison as a way to document her life with her son, but also aims to create a supportive and encouraging community for new and prospective mums. She is returning to part-time teaching in July. Fi and her family live in Sydney.

Comments

    • I’m glad it has been helpful for you Kylie, it really is hard when you’re in the thick of it to remember there are other mums in the same boat as you. You are doing an amazing job! xx

  1. I love this and I needed to read this. As mums we get tested sometimes but at the end of the day, our little ones love us and they look up to us! My daughter brings joy into my life, I couldn’t imagine being without her. Despite all the challenges I face in life, she gives me a reason to be better.. Great post!

    • Thank you so much! I agree – my son is the best thing that has happened to me, despite the challenges it brings. But it is nice to know that we are not alone in those tough times! x

    • Thank you so much, all the best with your planning and prep! I was the same, lots of reading! Always happy to help if you have any questions – feel free to email and I’d love to chat x

    • I’m so glad you were able to remind yourself of this during the tough times – that’s when we need the encouragement most. You are an amazing mumma! x

  2. Being a mum can be a really tough gig sometimes (life especially gets hard when we havn’t had enough rest/ quiet time), it’s so important to know we are not alone. We need to look out for each other and offer support where we can. I am feeling extra tired lately with a grumpy teething baby and my hubby being quite busy at work and other commitments. We need to be easy on ourselves sometimes. Cereal for dinner and movies in the afternoon has happened more than once lately and thats ok!

    • Oh I 100% agree with you Clare – it is much worse when we’re tired as well, and then that is always the time when there are the extra pressures (teething, temporary solo parenting, and so forth). I think it is important that we don’t worry about HOW we’re getting through those tough times, but realising that we’re not alone in that and that we’re doing the best we can for our babies. You are an AMAZING mumma! x

    • Thanks Delphine! I definitely hope it helps everyone, not just mothers, see that there are struggles behind the face we see – that mothers need our encouragement and support (just like all women need!) x

  3. A beautiful letter to remind any mum on any day the whole reason they do everything! Thank you for the reminder, Fi. Motherhood is so full of ups, downs, and upside-downs! It can be so exhausting and stressful, but so very rewarding seeing ourselves poured into the lives of our little ones who pour that into others. ❤️

    • Thanks Amanda. Yes I totally agree, the most rewarding thing I’ve ever experienced – but also the most challenging! I love the flow-on effect, I can’t wait until my boy is older to continue seeing that grow!

  4. Yes Fi, that’s true! It is easy to think that no one understands what you are going through, but plenty of mums are facing the same struggles.

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